http://www.usccb.org/bible/readings/110214.cfm (This homily is based off of the same readings suggested on the USCCB Website)
The famous
comedian, Jerry Seinfeld, once did a stand-up piece in which he
talked about human fears. He said that a survey done back in the
90's found that people's number one fear is public speaking. Number
two is death. Number two! That means that for the average person,
if you're at a funeral, you would rather be in the casket than doing
the eulogy. I don't know what that says about me: I often have to
meet with families at the time of a death and speak at the funeral!
I don't know
whether those are the real top fears of people or if that was just
part of Seinfeld's shtick, but we don't have to go through all the
trouble of a survey poll to see that many people do have a fear of
death. I think that it's fair to say that this fear comes from a
fear of the unknown. We really know so very little about what
happens after death. Christ tells us about Heaven and Hell several
different times in the Gospels. We can also find references in other
Scriptures to Purgatory where we our souls are purified to get us
ready for Heaven. However, these references provide hardly any
details of what we can expect. We know Heaven is eternal paradise
and that Hell is eternal suffering, but we still don't know what that
really means. What is eternal paradise? What is eternal suffering?
Will we be able to recognize our loved ones in Heaven? What exactly
are we going to say or do for all of eternity? It's no wonder so
many people are afraid of death when we know so little about life
after death.
When we read
Scriptures, like those we just heard today, we can see that God's
intention is not that any of us should fear death. On the contrary,
God wants us to be at peace about death. This peace is gained not by
knowing exactly what life after death is going to be like, but rather
by having faith in God who seeks to bring all who have faith in Him
to eternal life.
Our first
reading from the Book of Wisdom speaks eloquently about the
difference between those of the world who fear death as opposed to
those who have faith in God. King Solomon, who is given credit for
writing the Book of Wisdom, says that “The souls of the just
are in the hand of God, and no torment shall touch them”. To the
foolish however, that is, those who have no faith, death is seen only
as an affliction and utter destruction. In fact, notice that it is
only the foolish who even refer to this “passing away” as death.
For the just and those who believe, it simply means that they are
with God and at peace. Solomon explains that even if there is
suffering for a time in this life, blessings will follow in the
hereafter. I think it is fair to say that those who are called
“foolish” in this reading are the same people in this world who
fear death the most. Not only does this reading teach us that God
takes care of His faithful ones, but it also reminds us that if we
have any fear of death then we must work to increase our own faith
and trust in God.
In seminary, we were all expected to spend some
time volunteering in some sort of ministry. One such ministry
involved visiting people in nursing homes and hospitals. Often, this
included working with hospice patients and their families and with
families who had just lost a loved one. I can say today that this
type of work scared me the most. It was a fear of my own mortality
and a fear of not knowing how to help those people through the
grieving process. I remember talking to my Mom about this fear of
death. To try to help me she told me about an experience she had
when she was just five years old. She told me about how her
grandmother had come to live with her family. On school days, my mom
would come home for lunch and see her grandmother. One day she came
home to find her grandmother slouched in her chair, her arms hanging
on the sides and her prayerbook lying on the floor. She had died
there. Understandably, this frightened her a bit and she ran to her
neighbor's to get help. But my Mom said that she learned something
very important that day: that death can be peaceful. My Mom saw that
her grandmother's face was peaceful in death. Her prayerbook had
fallen from her hands: She had been praying when she died. Thanks to
this and other accounts that people have told me about loved one's
who have died in peace, I am less afraid of death and much more at
peace, knowing that God cares for His people.
A big determining factor in how a person views
death and the afterlife is the culture that he or she grows up in.
In Mexico and other Latin American countries and communities,
November 1st and 2nd are a time to celebrate
Dia de los Muertos or Day of
the Dead. It is a time to remember family members who have died.
This isn't about only remembering that funny thing that Grandpa said
or those fun times we had with Mom. This isn't about mourning their
passing either. This is about celebrating the lives of those family
members and the festivities include doing some of the things they
enjoyed doing in life. Lot's of food, music, dancing, and
decorations featuring skeletons and skulls are a big part of the
celebration. A big part of the Dia de los Muertos
is that the dead are still an integral and active part of the family.
It is on the Day of the Dead that they wake from their slumber and
join in the festivities. Death is simply a part of life, but not the
end.
Even with our
Christian faith helping us to see that God takes care of the souls of
the just, we may at times still feel some fear around death. We may
fear losing a loved one for instance, or we may still fear what our
own death will be like. I think that is still to be expected. The
point is that despite those fears, it is our faith in God and our
hope in eternal life that win the day.
Jesus tells us in the
Gospel that He was sent to do the will of the Father, and that the
will of the Father is that those who believe in Christ will have
eternal life and will be raised on the last day. It is in that
promise that we have our hope for eternal life. Fear not, for we are
in the hands of God.